Archive for the ‘Personal’ Category

Us and them

April 22, 2007

There is a man in jail right now who is going to sue us all. He is going to own the county, and he will fire us all. There is a woman who is from the Central Intelligence Agency, and is eagerly awaiting a visit from the President. There is a man living with AIDS who, by all statistical rights, should not be alive. There is a man who is on trial for his 3rd strike, fighting for his freedom. There is a man sobering up to the DUI charge he received the night prior. There is a woman writing a letter to her children trying to explain why she is in jail “this time”. There is a man wondering if his family is going to show up at visiting time. There is a man thinking of ways to get out of jail. There is a man thinking of ways to score more dope when he leaves.

Then there’s me.

Sometimes I think that the only thing that separates me from most of them, is one or two really dumb decisions. We both feel, we both bleed, we both have wants and needs. There are many things that we have in common, but the only one that counts for now, is the fact that we are both in jail. I am on my side, and they are on theirs.
I think I like this side better.

A Canine Last Goodbye

April 16, 2007

I remember a poem that Jimmy Stewart wrote (yes, THAT Jimmy Stewart), and once read on ‘The Late Show with Johnny Carson’. It’s called “Bo” (or “Beau”), and it seems fitting to show here.Here’s my story:
When I was just a boy, our house was in the woods. It was a nice home and we had nice things, but one of the things I remember the most is my dog, Lizzie. Lizzie was a German short-hair. I don’t really remember her as a puppy, we got her when she was full grown. She was still a puppy, but in a grown-dog body. We adopted her from a neighbor who had taken Lizzie’s brother and her when they were pups.
She was dark brown and had a stub tail, as all German short-hairs do. She was a good dog, always good with us kids. Never mean, and rarely very brave. Whenever someone would come up our driveway, she would scamper to the back yard and bark from there until we coaxed her back to the front. Sort of a passive-aggressive doggy personality.
One day, we heard some whining coming from our back deck. When we went to check out the problem, we saw Lizzie sitting at the back door. Her snout was full of porcupine barbs. Some were barely sticking in, and others were fully through her snout. I am sure they ALL hurt. We were all worried about our dog, but she didn’t seem afraid of us. Our uncle told us that he could probably remove them, but if Lizzie was going to “freak out”, we were going to have to take him to the vet (over an hour away). Well, my uncle got some pliers and began the delicate procedure. Lizzie didn’t yelp, or pull away once. She just laid down and let us pull the barbs out, one by one. She was obviously in pain, but she trusted us to take care of her, even if it hurt her to do so.
She was sore for a couple of days afterwards, but no worse for the wear. I think we were all amazed by her, and we learned to love her just a little more.
She and I would play in the woods for hours with my sisters. She was always nearby, and came whenever we called. She would endure the pulling of the ears, and the tackles and all of the other things that kids put dogs through. She was a good dog, a good good dog. She was part of our family.
Fast forward 10 years, and I am away at college. Lizzie has grown old and blind. With a fully grey beard, she is severely arthritic and seems to get scared easily. She is becoming dangerous. When anyone new comes to the house, she becomes very aggressive and even lunges at a couple of delivery men.
She was in pain then. We had moved, and she no longer had the freedom she once enjoyed. She could no longer go on her runs; even if she wanted to, she didn’t have it in her anymore. Lizzie started getting seizures too. She would just plop over and start shaking uncontrollably. It was sad. My poor dog was slowly dying, I was told.
One day after classes, I got a call from my mom. She told me that dad had taken Lizzie to the humane society to be euthanized. I was expecting it. I knew that it was going to have to happen sooner or later, but it was probably easier that I wasn’t home. I felt bad for my dad though. It was his dog too. I was sad, but it didn’t really crush me. I was in college after all, and there are plenty of other things to occupy one’s mind while in college.
Quickly, I forgot about my late friend, or so I had thought.
About a week after the call from my mom, I awoke from a dream, with a tear soaked pillow. Lizzie was still young and happy. With perfect eyesight and no arthritis, we played and ran, and rolled around on the ground like we did when I was a boy. It was as if she was saying goodbye. One last game, one last romp, one last lick on the face. I get a little choked up just thinking about it now. Thanks again old girl.

How to tackle sleep and trees. (Or – How I kept myself awake during my weekend.)

April 11, 2007

I am just finishing my first grave yard weekend, and I have to say that it’s been nice. Work wasn’t at all bad this week, but (as I have said 100 times before) any time away from work is good time.
This week, I have had my sister and her son here from LasVegas. I wanted to hang out with her and my new baby nephew, so I decided to stay up all day on my Friday. That means that after I worked from midnight to 8am, I didn’t sleep, but stayed up and waited to sleep until normal sleep time. After all was said and done, I had stayed up for about 30 hours. Good? Bad? You Decide.

After work, around 2pm, I started to feel a bit sleepy and actually a bit drunk. So, like any good drunk man, I decided to destroy something. I took my chainsaw out to the backyard and cut down two trees. OK, so only one fell, but the other will probably go during some heavy winds. The one that is still up was leaning onto another tree to begin with, so with some help from good ol’ mutha nature, I expect my handy work to pay off in the future. It isn’t leaning towards anything and it isn’t anywhere that the kids would go, so I am not afraid of hurting somebody. I did try to get it down by pulling it with my jeep. (Here’s a pic of my son and I working on the jeep.) It didn’t work though, because I don’t have off-road wheels and a jeep isn’t exactly heavy. Mostly, I just made some mud holes and spun out a lot. It was good dirty fun, and I felt like a “manly-man” when I was finished. For a geek-techie like me, that’s saying something.

After my stint in the “forest”, I decided to come back inside and hang out with the family.
At around midnight I decided to call it a day (in actuality I was calling it 2 days) and got a good 9 hours of sleep. It was nice. I felt tired when I woke up, but not terribly. I am just wondering if I would feel better or worse if I had stayed on my normal graveyard sleep schedule. It was pretty easy staying up THIS time, but sometimes I get where I can’t even talk straight, let alone operate a chainsaw.
If I am able to keep my wits, I would like to keep staying up, because I feel like I get more time off and more time with my family. I just don’t want them to suffer if I become useless. I do know that if it gets too bad, my wife will brief me, and promptly order me to bed.
God, I love that woman.

Trykl, Trust, & Baby

March 30, 2007


So in pure “Web 2.0″ fashion, I have decided to change my last name. As a fad cognizant web-netizen I think it is only fitting that I start updating and upgrading my life. This is starting with my name. From now on, you can call me Trykl. Like Flickr and Frappr, I have chosen to drop the last vowel of my name ,change up the spelling a bit, and give myself some reflection. I will also start spelling various other objects by their new “2.0″ name.
For instance:

  • Lights are now Lites.
  • Tables are now tabls.
  • Phone is now Phon
  • Computer is now Computr

For that matter, I think that spelling anything correctly is not even necessary.
You see:

Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn’t mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoetnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be at the rghit pclae. The rset can be a toatl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe.

So, form now on, we dno’t hvae to eevn wrory aoubt seplinlg at all. Srecw the Splel Ceckher!!

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TRUST

I haven’t really had the will to write lately. I have been pretty down in the dumps. Things aren’t horrible , but I can definitely say that things aren’t GREAT.
I have been dealing with some “trust issues” lately. Someone lied to me. I confronted them about it and they were very sorry, but in the process I have learned a couple things about myself.
One, is that I may seem very forgiving, and I don’t show my feelings for very long. I’m not so sure that’s good though, since I also seem to have the same things happen over again.
I know that a “good person” forgives and forgets, but I also know that if there is no consequence for someones actions they may not learn. So, what do I do?

If it was my wife that had lied to me, would I have to “make her pay” for a time? If it was a guy at work, would I stop hanging around them for a while? If one of my siblings had lied to me, would I sanction them (like they do in the UN)? What is an acceptable consequence? Are any consequences acceptable? Is the fact that I don’t trust what they say just a by-product, or is that consequence enough in and of itself? I really don’t know.

The other thing I have learned is I am really bothered, but I don’t show it at all. Publicly, I may seem to be alright, but privately I’m pissed off. I feel like this last month is up in the air. I feel like everything this person told me is now suspect. What else has this person lied to me about? I want to believe that the lies I know about are the only ones being told, but I have no way of knowing… This person could be lying about other things, and I wouldn’t have a clue about it… especially if lying comes so easily (as it did in this case).
I don’t know what to do, if anything. Trust is important, but dwelling on this could also be harmful to me. I want to have this friendship pick up where it was before I was lied to, but if I let it go like it never happened, then there is no downside to lying to me again. I want to forgive and forget, but I also want to deal with my anger in order to get through it.
I would imagine that the next couple of weeks will probably iron all of this out; time is a great band-aid for things like this.
Thanks for listening, dear reader.

Shifting gears again:
Some friends of mine, Sunshine and Aaron, just welcomed their first (and only) child to their family. Sunny maintains a site where you can see little Edan with her mom and dad. Give her blog a visit if you’ve got a minute and you like a little interpersonal voyeurism.